Comments on: Finding a Space for Me http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666 mom blog: parenting my perfectly made girls Thu, 17 May 2012 09:31:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Back Down to Earth… : Mom-Blog: Parenting, life, growth, and sanity http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666&cpage=1#comment-5343 Back Down to Earth… : Mom-Blog: Parenting, life, growth, and sanity Wed, 24 Feb 2010 03:29:28 +0000 http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666#comment-5343 [...] been doing pretty well lately, in the Mom Arena.  You’ll recall that earlier this month I posted about melting down with the kids, and I have slid a few times since then. I decided a few [...] [...] been doing pretty well lately, in the Mom Arena.  You’ll recall that earlier this month I posted about melting down with the kids, and I have slid a few times since then. I decided a few [...]

]]> By: admin http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666&cpage=1#comment-5242 admin Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:28:43 +0000 http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666#comment-5242 No worries! I shouldn't yell at them, so no bad feelings. It's wrong of me, as it was wrong of me to "expect" certain things from my kids at certain times. No worries! I shouldn’t yell at them, so no bad feelings. It’s wrong of me, as it was wrong of me to “expect” certain things from my kids at certain times.

]]> By: mombond http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666&cpage=1#comment-5239 mombond Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:28:47 +0000 http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666#comment-5239 I am so sorry, I didn't mean to make you feel bad about the screaming, I am totally guilty of doing it too! I was just trying to explain how I get control of it, before I get out of control. I will stay tunned in, it's great to find a place where I can express my feelings and I am not the only person in the world who feels this way. Keep it up! I am so sorry, I didn’t mean to make you feel bad about the screaming, I am totally guilty of doing it too! I was just trying to explain how I get control of it, before I get out of control. I will stay tunned in, it’s great to find a place where I can express my feelings and I am not the only person in the world who feels this way. Keep it up!

]]> By: admin http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666&cpage=1#comment-5234 admin Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:05:27 +0000 http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666#comment-5234 Hi mombond! Yikes, you made me feel bad about all the yelling! I remember years & years of not yelling and then it seemed like I woke up one day and went, how did I get here? I have a natural tendency to high emotions and overreaction - they've served me well as a writer, but they are the devil to my parenting! I agree - we have to be aware of our motives and reasons for our bad behavior, and we have to find a time out for ourselves. Because I'm a high emotion person, I have to constantly be on the watch for my behavior. Vitriole is my human-preferred response & release, but finding a calm way out is always better even to how I feel. Thanks, and I hope you'll stick around for more! Hi mombond! Yikes, you made me feel bad about all the yelling! I remember years & years of not yelling and then it seemed like I woke up one day and went, how did I get here? I have a natural tendency to high emotions and overreaction – they’ve served me well as a writer, but they are the devil to my parenting!

I agree – we have to be aware of our motives and reasons for our bad behavior, and we have to find a time out for ourselves. Because I’m a high emotion person, I have to constantly be on the watch for my behavior. Vitriole is my human-preferred response & release, but finding a calm way out is always better even to how I feel. Thanks, and I hope you’ll stick around for more!

]]> By: mombond http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666&cpage=1#comment-5219 mombond Tue, 09 Feb 2010 00:42:12 +0000 http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666#comment-5219 OMG....Are you living my life or what? Although I don't yell as much as you do, I am 38 now and realized pretty early on that when I yell at my kids all it does is frighten them, and trust me sometimes I really really want them to be scared of me. Especially when I am having one of those days you mentioned, when you can't even turn around and pee. When my son was about 4,not 13, I remember loosing it with him because he had an accident in his big boy undies and I went crazy, didn't hit him or anything like that, but I was screaming at him like a psycho woman, and I remember getting this thought in my head, which I swear was from God...and I heard, all you are doing is breaking his spirit and who he is. From that day forward I made it a point to check my emotions at the door when handling any situation with my kids. I think we sometimes let our experiences as children and the current life situations affect us in being good parents. I think I am a great mom, I try and do all the things one is supposed to do for their children, warm, caring, sensitive and attuned to their needs. But I think when we are lacking those things in our lives, it makes it really hard to do those things without resenting having to do it. Don't get me wrong, I don't just go through the motions of doing those things, I love my children and wold walk the ends of the world for them, but I know when all my needs aren't being met,being with my husband or with friends and family, it sometimes plays out in other ways. So I have to always be aware of my emotions before I react. Something so trivial like sneaking a piece of candy, can trigger some other emotions, like me not having control. So don't feel like you are a terrible mother, all our intentions are good, I think? But we all just have to be aware of the reasons why we do the thing we do. Thank you for being so truthful, like you said, I think there are more of us, people just don't want to admit it. OMG….Are you living my life or what? Although I don’t yell as much as you do, I am 38 now and realized pretty early on that when I yell at my kids all it does is frighten them, and trust me sometimes I really really want them to be scared of me. Especially when I am having one of those days you mentioned, when you can’t even turn around and pee. When my son was about 4,not 13, I remember loosing it with him because he had an accident in his big boy undies and I went crazy, didn’t hit him or anything like that, but I was screaming at him like a psycho woman, and I remember getting this thought in my head, which I swear was from God…and I heard, all you are doing is breaking his spirit and who he is. From that day forward I made it a point to check my emotions at the door when handling any situation with my kids. I think we sometimes let our experiences as children and the current life situations affect us in being good parents. I think I am a great mom, I try and do all the things one is supposed to do for their children, warm, caring, sensitive and attuned to their needs. But I think when we are lacking those things in our lives, it makes it really hard to do those things without resenting having to do it. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t just go through the motions of doing those things, I love my children and wold walk the ends of the world for them, but I know when all my needs aren’t being met,being with my husband or with friends and family, it sometimes plays out in other ways. So I have to always be aware of my emotions before I react. Something so trivial like sneaking a piece of candy, can trigger some other emotions, like me not having control. So don’t feel like you are a terrible mother, all our intentions are good, I think? But we all just have to be aware of the reasons why we do the thing we do. Thank you for being so truthful, like you said, I think there are more of us, people just don’t want to admit it.

]]> By: admin http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666&cpage=1#comment-5214 admin Mon, 08 Feb 2010 14:37:06 +0000 http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666#comment-5214 Thank you Dana! Blogging about it has brought me sanity. If I can help someone else, that's just icing on my cake. I'm glad you get something from all this. The loneliness can be grueling, even if you're not a special needs parent. Thank you Dana! Blogging about it has brought me sanity. If I can help someone else, that’s just icing on my cake. I’m glad you get something from all this. The loneliness can be grueling, even if you’re not a special needs parent.

]]> By: Dana at The Mom-tage http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666&cpage=1#comment-5213 Dana at The Mom-tage Mon, 08 Feb 2010 14:15:54 +0000 http://mom-blog.com/?p=1666#comment-5213 It's so refreshing to come across a mom that's honest about her struggles. We all have them, some just don't admit it. Thank you for being so real. It's been a blessing to me. .-= Dana at The Mom-tage´s last undefined ..<a href="0" rel="nofollow">If you register your site for free at </a> =-. It’s so refreshing to come across a mom that’s honest about her struggles. We all have them, some just don’t admit it. Thank you for being so real. It’s been a blessing to me.
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