This week I need some good reminding about hope, and this is why, mamas with special kiddos, I cannot stress enough WHY YOU NEED SUPPORT!
You need, specifically:
- women friends
- family, or friends who are like family
- other mamas who have kids with the same disabilities as your children
Now, life has been really hectic, and show NO signs of slowing down with a birthday party, Scooby-Doo show, and bastketball games, ALL scheduled for next week!
That, and my intense faith, though, has not made the down days go away. So in Bible study this week, my friend asked how I was doing and I poured out my heart. I rely heavily on God and His provision – and He’s always come through, but when I look at my children and their improvement (or lack of), I worry about their future. As an older mom, I doubly worry – what happens when I’m not here any more?
And the full truth I revealed: that at this point, I just don’t see how either of them will manage adulthood unless they are in a home. (Forget college, forget marriage.)
At that point, my dear friend piped up. You see, she has a 17-year-old nephew who has autism. He started college in the fall and is doing great. What I didn’t realize?
Only 2 years before that, he couldn’t speak! Her takeaway? You have no idea what your child can or will accomplish in the future. ”NEVER give up hope!”
I took it to heart. I had, in a small, shuttered corner of my heart that I don’t like to talk about, given up hope. I had laid on myself the power of things that are not in my hand…with my kids, I have control issues, and my trust in God is weak. I had started to draw the blinds down on the future of my 7- and a 10- year old girls.
This time, though, it didn’t taking read a scripture, or a prayer, or feeling the comfort of God or the Holy Spirit in my heart. It took the impassioned plea of a really good friend to see how far away I had come from hope, and how it is really too soon to throw in the towel, even in a small portion of my soul.
I encourage you today, you who have kids with special needs, who wear a brave, bright face, who overcome more hurdles than Superman while raising your kids, who cover up that small, dark shadow in the corner of your soul, to find yourself a good friend who can shake some sense into you! Or, find a mother who’s happy with the life her child leads. We are here, we mamas in the community of kids with disabilities, and we have stories that will inspire and encourage you!
Peace out, and now some birthday photos from my 10-going-on-rebellious-16-year-old (please note I really crapped out taking photos on Saturday. BIG TIME FAIL, so this is all I got):